While sitting with some wonderful people and talking about relationships a beautiful young woman next to me tearfully wailed “how am I supposed to walk if I have no feet?” This powerful statement was in reference to the gaps her parents left in teaching her how to communicate, feel, be present and open, etc. She felt literally stuck in her life circumstances and unable to move forward because she perceived she was lacking the proper tools. In this case, feet.
This statement has been weighing on me ever since; along with the pain she exuded as she made it. I know that pain all too well. I would hazard to guess that most of us have felt it at least for a small moment along the way. It’s excruciating.
But I can say from my personal experience and from watching those around me and listening to their stories that there is always something we can do.
As Rumi says, “If all you can do is crawl, start crawling.”
If you cannot move things with your body then move them with your words.
If you do not feel seen then perhaps look inward to see yourself first and, from that, examine what else you might change or influence.
Create something that resonates with others and causes ripples of Hope or change in their attitudes and your own.
Love and let love be returned to bolster your strength and connection.
Cry to make room for something better.
Crawl until, by dragging your feet behind you, you are able to feel them enough to learn to walk with them, too.
And, most of all, know that you are connected to everyone and everything around you in a meaningful, symbiotic way because you matter.
Move forward ~ whether you are able to walk or not.